Any diff lock system can and will only engage (and disengage!) when standing still or with the differential turning very slowly. It may take some time sometimes before the lock engages or disengages properly.
Take care especially when disabling the lock: drive very slowly and don't make turns until the diff lock really disengaged. Many people do take care when engaging the lock, but tend to sort of forget that when disengaging, and try to drive on too fast too soon after hitting their button, thinking: "OK, lock is off!"....
I am puzzled by your naming it an EDL button... The Electronic Diff Lock cannot be engaged/disengaged, it is 'always on' in the Haldex system until a certain speed, and is basically your ABS kicking in and trying to brake a wheel that is spinning. At least that has always been my understanding and is what I have been taught and have experienced in our 4Motion trainings.
I have never seen a button to switch on/off the EDL.... Is that different with you, because you have DSG? Are you sure you are not talking about the mechanical diff lock? That can be engaged/disengaged with a button...
This is what the
on line technical documentation says on EDL:
"The electronic differential lock permits smooth, comfortable starts on split-friction road surfaces with differing levels of grip. If one wheel starts to spin, the electronic differential lock will brake the wheel as necessary, directing power to the wheel with better grip in the process. The electronic differential lock reduces tyre wear and operates at speeds of up to around 40 km/h (4MOTION: up to about 80 km/h). As a software function, it forms part of the
electronic stability control (ESC) and
traction control (ASR)."