Also no expert but trying to gain a better understanding before too late to add to my order If justified. From what I can work out it would actually only be needed if a wheel on each axle loses traction, so 2 in the air or otherwise compromised for grip. If just front wheel then drive would transfer to rear, if a rear wheel also lost grip then you’d need to then lock rear diff to go anywhere. Am I on the right track, or missing something?
Afraid that is not the case, because there is no centre diff lock so any wheel spinning takes all the power so on its own (without EDC) it is no better that 2WD apart from in on road situations. (ready for the flood of abuse here!). One wheel in the air, or even on wet grass, is enough to put the 4motion to make it necessary to use excessive speed to get out of a sticky situation.
4motion is designed for on road scenarios, so in the instance where there is a loss of traction on the front wheels causes spin, power is sent to the rear through the haldex clutch and reduces spin. Same scenario in towing where the front wheels are light, more power goes automatically to the rear to aid traction.
When you get into a scenario when one wheel lifts, the system will try to use the brakes to stop power being lost through the spinning wheel (6:23 in the video in post 24). You will get a lot of wheel spin before the system kicks in, and it will start and stop again each time you change throttle position.
The advantage of the diff lock is that it firstly splits power between the front wheels and the rear wheels 50/50 whilst locking the rear axle together ensuring that the rear wheels will turn together (you may see slight spin after engagement). This allows a much slower speed to be used and maintained which is important to prevent damage to a vehicle not designed for full off road, and in the most part, speed is what damages off road.
I am not advocating the need for diff lock or indeed 4motion, my FWD golf has been all over the snowy mountains this winter pretty well, but if you have 4motion on the basis that you feel you may want it for that occasional off road trail, then get the diff lock as without it you might as well be FWD. Also there is a premium for vans with diff lock in the second hand market so could be worth the small additional cost. talking to the dealers here in Central Europe, 90% of the Californias they sell are 4motion with diff lock.