Its this eventuality that I'm planning for. I've had battery issues out in the wild before now. On boats as well as cars. It seems to me that the relay's job is to allow the linking of the 2 battery banks. If the small red wire is the trigger to close the relay then a simple switch to energise this wire should accomplish this.
As Loz says above, care should be taken WRT charge level of the battery banks before operating the switch, but a starter battery at 11.5 v seem unable to start the vehicle. A little boost from the other battery bank would help in times like this. I appreciate the points that folks are making re the LiIon power packs but I'd like a more elegant solution. Plus with Murphy's law I'd probably leave the dam thing at home or in another vehicle the day I needed it.
Re the 250SA, I don't really see the point of this device in my T5, as both battery banks are getting charged in both static hookup and alternator running modes. Maybe I've missed something about its cross charging capabilities here, but I think not as the original 'complaint' that started this thread is actually what I want to happen, i.e. when the starter battery is inconveniently low then a cross charge from the house bank is initiated. Mine doesn't do this. Not sure why. But is seems likely it would if I manually energised the relay trigger.