Welcome!
Lots of good advice here as always.
DSG is awesome. Period. I have the 204 DSG and on a recent trip to The Lakes (a 340+ mile drive just to get there) having the DSG on the motorway made it effortless, but it really came into its own when driving the very hilly terrain once in The Lakes. And, as I’m sure others have said, it isn’t simply like driving an Auto. The gear changes are so quiet and effortless you hardly realise its even happening. Brilliant.
Adaptive Cruise. Again, awesome. And, makes it a safer drive in my view. Having a vehicle that brakes on its own is a bit weird at first but frankly I wouldn’t be without it now. It will come to a complete stop if you come off a slip road for example (provided there is a vehicle in front!) which takes a bit of getting used to. But, there’s always an idiot on the M25 who pulls out in front of you just as you blink, the Cali will sense that before you do and brake, potentially saving your life. I use mine all the time, even around town. Also very handy for those very tedious 50mph limits on the M1.....
Factory fit towbar (removable) Much cheaper and easier to fit ‘at birth’ than an aftermarket version, and a good resale option. For a couple of hundred quid seems daft not to.
HD Anti-roll bars and 30mm lowering springs, in my opinion, make for a much smoother and ‘grounded’ drive. Feels like I’m driving an estate car rather than a ‘van’.
Heated front windscreen, no brainer for me as I’m way to short to reach the top of the screen with a scraper unless I stand on the front wheels! And, frankly, life is way too short to be faffing about with a scraper when its minus 2 outside.
MF Steering wheel. Again, just makes my life easier. And it looks nice!
It's horses for courses, we all have different needs/wants. For me it was about getting the best and enjoyable drive (my Cali is my daily driver), making it as safe as possible, with of course, the odd ‘toy’!
If there was one thing I would have that I didn’t specify, it would be the LED lights. However, they are stupidly expensive so I flatly refused to pay for them. I still argue with myself over that one mind!!
Whatever you decide, its an awesome vehicle to drive, you’ll love it whatever you choose